By Dra. Margarita Mendoza Burgos
In love or passionate?. They look alike, but it's not the same, although it is often confused.
Love is something more complex than passion. We can feel passion without feeling the slightest bit of love.
Before it was given, especially in men, that although they love someone they always try to look for passions everywhere. But nevertheless, now with female sexual liberation, women demand more this part. But they can give in and live solely on love.
The passion is more overflowing, but also more ephemeral. Love, instead, it is built over time and once consolidated it is difficult to tear down.
When a relationship starts, generally tends to be more passionate, passion sustains her more than total and true love. Little by little that passion acquires a series of nuances as we commit more information about our lives and intimacy is greater.. A) Yes, love is growing and is gaining ground to passion.
According to a recent study, "the passion, a whole tumult of emotions, usually lasts from 12 a 18 months". American anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of the book Why do we love?, explain the following: "When the couple gets used to the daily life of the union, that fire begins to diminish and is replaced by feelings of affection, union and serenity with the loved one ".
In the female sex, passion and love are two feelings that go almost hand in hand. The men, Conversely, can more easily separate love from passion. Proof of this is that they have fleeting relationships and even lovers. They find the passion on one side, materialized through sexual intercourse, and love in another, with the partner with whom it has led them to form a first home and have children to whom “give your last name "
Even so, generally relationships tend to start with a large dose of passion and this can decrease, but it is creating more intimacy and knowledge.
Over time, both love and passion have evolved, more if passion is considered as expressions of exaltation and conduct. Before it was taken more commonly that passion could have passionate overtones like a scream, slap or hair pull… And some called the attention of their passionate goals even by throwing stones at them or being rude with the object of their seduction..
As well, impossible to deny, we are all influenced by what we see in fiction, and this includes movies, soap operas, books… and even real life examples with celebrities. We tend to extrapolate them, to take them as examples and that is not always good.
Although sometimes couples are envied more with passion than with love, the truth is that it is something very relative. It depends on the maturity of the people and their own goals in life. An inveterate Don Juan -or the same in its feminine version- it will take longer to find true love.
Especially if you only take time to live from passion to passion, without daring to make stronger and more affective ties. Worst, in any case, It is when someone thinks that they found their love and the disappointment is great when they discover that the other party is only looking for passion.
There are also cases that by burning stages it is not possible to develop passion, and that is counterproductive. For example, when a couple establishes stronger ties, including marriage and children, before you have enjoyed a good passion and go, little by little, giving rise to greater intimacy and knowledge.
In the ideal world, passion and love are combined in that couple who after making love spends time to talk and not only get up, take a shower and leave. Another bad sign is when little by little, especially more common in males, fall asleep after intercourse. There is passion, but there is no love, and that's never good news.